I’m so full of happiness for finally reaching a stage of self acceptance and love, after years of eating disorders, depression and self loathing. Why do you insist on knocking me down with every word, image, tv show and joke? Why do you treat me like I am alien, incapable of ever being loved or considered beautiful, sexy and amazing? Why do you hate and judge me so much when there are far more inexcusable things to hate in this world, like people who judge merely by appearances or people who have more value for money than life, people and ethics.
How does hating so much on fat people make the world a better place?
You don’t know what it’s like to be me and I’ve accepted that you will never know. Why can’t you accept me as I am? does it really matter what everyone rates your daughter on a scale of prettiness? do you really think no man will love her just the way she is? Do I really have to be successful, smart, independent, happy and thin? “You’re pretty even though you’re fat” “I’m so happy for you, now you only have to lose weight” like my failure to be thin trumps my independence and career.
I know I’m your friend but listening to you complain about your body or bitch about someone else’s affects me too. It’s contagious because while you’re bitching about how fat your thighs are or beaming with pride about your weight loss, I’m wondering what you think about me since I’m about ten times bigger than you.
If you choose to knock yourself down instead of fighting all these rules that society puts on women, don’t expect a self acceptance/ plus size blogger to support you or offer a shoulder to lean on. I’m sorry, it might be selfish but it’s too destructive for me to be a part of. I can be there for you when you realize you are SO much better than that!
I love you, you make me forget how shitty the world can be and some how manage to make me feel like a beautiful, sexy woman everyday, every minute. I wish there were more of you to negate all the ass holes a plus size, or a every girl for that matter, has cried over.
Dear Plus size girls,
Own it. You don’t need to explain your body to anyone, it’s YOUR body. I am constantly saying the words “Fuck People” in my head because it’s too hard to live everyday trying to live up to other people’s expectations. It’s too hard living with other people’s judgment. It’s too hard caring about what other people think because honestly, I doubt they think, I think they just act on what everyone else thinks and enjoy judging people (everyone does!) but at the end of the day, it’s your life. You will never be able to please everyone else so you might as well please yourself. Live your life as if it’s always going to be your last day, stand up for yourself and make an effort to love every curve, lump, pimple, etc. Your life will be better, I promise.
Continue staying true to yourself because you are awesome. Blog from your heart, blog for the love of it, blog to over power the voices of biased fashion magazines, movies and tv shows, etc. Blog for those who are like you and need to know it’s fine not to be somebody else’s definition of perfect. Always keep blogging because you inspire your readers in a way you can’t imagine.
Work hard to focus on the positive, kick the negative out of your life. Live your life like it might end tomorrow, give your future kids something to be proud of. Try to make a difference some how and go beyond a self involved world, your problems suck less when you focus on others. Accept and move on, grow and change. There’s nothing you can do to change the past, work harder on the present and future. It’s ok to be proud of how far you’ve come 🙂
Love and hugs,