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Do you ever feel like you’re the only one battling this particular cause? Like, why doesn’t everyone else get it?
I usually feel like this about animal rights and judgment about people’s appearances. But at least we have PETA and other organizations, there’s still just a handful of people who realize that the constant bitching, not just about size but about things like choice in clothing, hair, even the size of a girls nose is NOT OKAY.
If you would never wear a particular type of clothing, good for you. Don’t wear it but don’t bitch about people who do.
It’s their choice, their comfort and their body. You’re not a style god and just because you’re a blogger or have been told you have good style, you are still not a Style God. You’re not that special, sorry.
If you think a girl wears too much make up, instead of the usual negative thought, how about thinking of a reason? What if she feels ugly and piles on the make up to feel better? or maybe she has a really bad scar on her face?
The only difference you make with your negative words is that you made her feel ugly with the make up on too.
If you think fat rolls, stretch marks, back acne, whatever, should be hidden, good for you. Hide yourself.
Not everyone agrees with you. Some people choose to embrace their bodies and wave the finger at everyone or everything that tells them not to.
Some people don’t think it’s such a big deal or just want to wear what they want or even have different levels of comfort. Some people realize that we are all human, even celebrities, and Photoshop and marketing campaigns are fuelled to make you feel ugly to spend money. Who are you to judge someone else against your level of comfort and insecurities?
Even when you talk about celebrities, yes they have a team to make them look good but when you’re commenting about that celeb’s weight gain or loss, funny nose, frizzy hair, etc you are commenting about women everywhere who share those attributes.
You, along with every other person in the world who chooses to bitch about that celebrity, are collectively bringing down women who are insecure and little girls who will grow up to be insecure.
I know that we’re not perfect and that some times it’s considered human nature but before you tweet or say that thought, think about the consequence it could have on some one who might not even be connected to you.
I’m no saint, I’ve made these mistakes too. Who hasn’t? I would look at a girl or celeb and say she’s too skinny, but who the hell am I to decide what is the appropriate size for her body? I would even think “at least I’m not as fat as her” or ask “Am I as chubby as her?” And I’m still training myself to just mind my own business and worry more about me being so judgmental instead of the ‘right’ size.
At some point, we really have to choose to evolve. It doesn’t become ok if everyone is doing it. Yes, we’re all entitled to our opinion but that entitlement also means respect for other’s entitled opinions and feelings too.
It’s easy to think you’re pretty or smart or popular or successful so why not join in the constant cycle of hate? Hell, you’re entitled to it. You work hard to look good or be successful. You’re better than that girl.
But have you ever thought about those standards you set for yourself and others? Especially as women, why is it ok to judge the next girl and why is it always a competition?
And if you’re a blogger, isn’t self expression the main aim here? So, if someone does an outfit post with flip flops, because you are entitled to an opinion and have 913947 followers on your fashion blog, you can criticize her choice of self expression/ outfit or style?
Sorry but your perfect hair, numerous followers or BMW doesn’t make you anything spectacular. You’re just human like the rest of us, there will always be someone prettier or more popular and there will always be constant ways to bring people down.
Would you rather help implement change in all the hate or help feed it? Choose to appreciate instead of depreciate. What might be trivial to you, could be a boulder to some one else.
End of Rant.